Imagine this. You’re living your life, doing the same school run, the same commute, the same grocery shop… and yet something feels off. You forget why you walked into a room. You snap at your partner for absolutely no reason, then cry over an advert for dishwasher tablets. Your jeans feel tighter even though nothing in your diet has changed. You wake at 3am with your heart racing and sweat pouring down your back. And your once-reliable body suddenly feels like it belongs to someone else. Many women describe this as feeling like an alien in their own skin. It’s unsettling, disorientating, and for some, terrifying. If that’s you, pour yourself a cup of something, settle in, and let’s have the conversation we should all have been given years ago. The Hormonal Symphony: What Happens When The Conductor Leaves Three hormones take centre stage in your reproductive years - oestrogen, progesterone, and testosterone. Together, they don’t just regulate your periods, they influence your brain, bones, heart, skin, mood, metabolism, immune system, and even your sense of self. Estrogen keeps bones strong, supports heart health, maintains skin elasticity, regulates mood, and affects temperature control. Progesterone balances oestrogen, supports sleep, has calming effects on the brain, and protects the lining of your uterus. Testosterone, though present in smaller amounts, contributes to libido, muscle strength, mood, and energy. During perimenopause (the transition years before menopause), oestrogen and progesterone begin to fluctuate wildly, like an orchestra warming up out of sync. Eventually, both decline to consistently low levels. Testosterone also gradually falls, although more steadily over decades. The result? A ripple effect across almost every system in the body. Did You Know? Estrogen has receptors in almost every tissue in the body - from your brain to your bladder. That’s why symptoms can be so widespread (Simpson et al., 2020). Perimenopause, Menopause, and Postmenopause: The Stages Explained Perimenopause: Usually begins in your 40s, but can start earlier. Periods may become irregular. Symptoms like hot flushes, mood swings, and poor sleep begin. Hormones are unpredictable; high one day, low the next. Menopause: Defined as 12 months without a menstrual period. The average age in the UK is 51 (NHS, 2023). Postmenopause: The years after menopause. Symptoms may continue but often change in intensity. Long-term health effects of low oestrogen become more significant. The Full Symptom Spectrum And Why They Happen Every woman’s experience is unique, but here’s the menu no one asked to order from: Hot flushes & night sweats: Declining estrogen affects the hypothalamus, which controls body temperature (Freedman, 2014). Sleep disturbance: Both hormonal changes and night sweats disrupt deep sleep cycles (Baker et al., 2018). Mood swings, anxiety, low mood: Lower estrogen impacts serotonin and dopamine levels (Soares, 2014). Brain fog & memory lapses: Estrogen helps with cognitive function; without it, mental sharpness can fade temporarily (Weber et al., 2014). Joint aches & stiffness: Estrogen has anti-inflammatory effects; loss can trigger musculoskeletal pain (Knee et al., 2019). Weight gain & body shape change: Hormonal changes influence insulin sensitivity and fat distribution (Lovejoy, 2009). Vaginal dryness & discomfort: Loss of oestrogen affects vaginal tissue, leading to atrophy (Portman & Gass, 2014). Loss of libido: Linked to lower testosterone and oestrogen (Davison et al., 2005). Hair thinning, skin changes: Reduced collagen production and follicle changes with low estrogen (Brincat, 2000). Heart palpitations, dizziness, tinnitus: Fluctuating hormones can influence cardiovascular and nervous systems. Myth Buster Menopause is not just “a few hot flushes”. Over 34 symptoms have been linked to the hormonal changes of this life stage (British Menopause Society, 2022). The Real-Life Impact — More Than Just Biology It’s not just about the physical symptoms. Menopause can quietly dismantle confidence and change how you interact with the world. At work: You forget deadlines, lose your train of thought mid-sentence, or struggle to manage stress. At home: Mood swings and fatigue strain relationships. In yourself: You may grieve the loss of fertility or feel disconnected from your body. Research shows that untreated menopause symptoms can significantly impact quality of life and productivity (Hardy et al., 2018). How Menopause Is Diagnosed For women over 45 with typical symptoms, diagnosis is usually based on symptoms alone (NICE, 2015). Hormone testing isn’t always necessary, but it can be useful if: You’re under 45 and symptoms suggest early menopause. You want a clear baseline before considering treatment. You have symptoms but irregular cycles are masking changes. Tests may include FSH, LH, estradiol, progesterone, and sometimes thyroid function, as thyroid disorders can mimic menopausal symptoms. Quick Tip If you’re tracking symptoms, note patterns in sleep, mood, periods, and energy. This record can help your GP see the full picture. Solutions: From Lifestyle to HRT Lifestyle Support Nutrition: Diet rich in whole foods, calcium, vitamin D, and phytoestrogens (e.g., soy, flax) may help bone and heart health (Messina, 2014). Exercise: Weight-bearing and resistance training support bone density and muscle mass. Sleep hygiene: Consistent routines, cool bedroom, limiting caffeine and alcohol. Non-Hormonal Options Some women use cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) for mood and sleep, or medications like SSRIs for hot flushes if HRT isn’t suitable (NICE, 2015). What about HRT? Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) is exactly what it sounds like: replacing the hormones your body is no longer producing at previous levels. The aim is to relieve symptoms and protect long-term health. The main types of HRT: Oestrogen-only HRT – for women who have had a hysterectomy. Combined HRT (oestrogen + progesterone) – for women who still have their uterus, as progesterone protects the womb lining from abnormal growth caused by oestrogen. Oestrogen + testosterone – in some cases, testosterone is prescribed alongside HRT to address specific symptoms like low libido, brain fog, and muscle weakness. HRT can be delivered via: Patches, gels, or sprays – transdermal delivery Tablets – taken orally Vaginal creams, rings, or pessaries – for local symptoms like dryness Did You Know? Body-identical HRT uses hormones chemically identical to those your body produces — these are considered the gold standard by the British Menopause Society. When Should You Consider HRT? You don’t need to wait until you’ve stopped menstruating. Many women start HRT during perimenopause when symptoms are affecting their quality of life. You might consider speaking to your GP or a menopause specialist if: Symptoms are interfering with daily activities, work, or relationships You’re experiencing frequent hot flushes, night sweats, or disturbed sleep You have low mood, anxiety, or brain fog that isn’t improving You’ve noticed a loss of libido or physical strength You have early menopause (before age 45) or premature ovarian insufficiency (before age 40) The HRT Controversy: Where Fear Came From In the early 2000s, the Women’s Health Initiative (WHI) study reported increased risks of breast cancer and heart disease in HRT users (Rossouw et al., 2002). Headlines sparked panic, and many women stopped HRT overnight. Later reanalysis revealed: Risks were overstated, especially for women who start HRT before age 60 or within 10 years of menopause. The type of progesterone matters - micronised progesterone appears safer than synthetic progestins (Stute et al., 2016). Transdermal estrogen doesn’t increase clot risk in the same way oral estrogen can (Canonico et al., 2007). Current guidance says that for most healthy women under 60, benefits outweigh risks (NICE, 2015). Myth Buster: HRT does not “just delay menopause”. Menopause is a permanent shift. HRT treats symptoms and protects health during and after the transition. Can Testosterone Help During Menopause? Testosterone isn’t just a “male” hormone — women make it too, in smaller amounts, and it plays a vital role in: Sexual desire and arousal Muscle strength and tone Bone density Mood stability and motivation Cognitive sharpness During perimenopause and menopause, testosterone levels naturally decline. This can contribute to: Loss of libido Persistent fatigue Muscle weakness or loss Lack of motivation Brain fog Some women find that adding low-dose testosterone to their HRT significantly improves these issues. However, in the UK, testosterone for women is not yet officially licensed for menopause treatment - it’s prescribed “off-label” in specific cases. The Cost of Doing Nothing: Long-Term Health Risks Low estrogen isn’t just about symptoms. It increases: Osteoporosis: Estrogen protects bone density (Riggs et al., 2002). Cardiovascular risk: Loss of estrogen affects cholesterol and artery health (Mendelsohn & Karas, 2005). Cognitive decline: Possible link between low oestrogen and dementia risk (Rocca et al., 2011). Metabolic syndrome: Higher risk post-menopause (Carr, 2003). Taking Back Control If you suspect perimenopause or menopause is at play: Track your symptoms. Speak to your GP or a menopause specialist. Consider hormone testing to understand your baseline - at-home options like Vitall’s hormone profiles can give you personalised insight within 48 hours, so you can make informed choices about HRT or other interventions. Keep the conversation going; adjustments to HRT or lifestyle may be needed over time. The Bottom Line If you’re reading this feeling like you’ve been dropped into someone else’s body without warning, it’s not all in your head. Perimenopause and menopause are profound biological shifts, and you deserve clear information and options. HRT, with or without testosterone, can be life-changing for many women, restoring not only physical comfort but a sense of self. The key is getting informed, finding the right type and dose for your needs, and working with a knowledgeable healthcare professional. You are not broken. You are not alone. And you do not have to just “put up with it.” So go on, find your baseline; get a test and start from there.